Your place in this world makes a difference and you should know right now that no metaphorical ceiling can cap your ideas, and that not even the sky is your limit.
Previously I wrote an article called, “Proof That Success Comes From Within“. The article featured my own thoughts about how it doesn’t matter your back ground, or your home situation, etc. If you want your life to be different then you can easily change it! Now I know what you are thinking… Easy? Really? I bet you are questioning if I have even dealt with a financial hardship, or a disadvantage from a young age, or an un-supportive character in my life.
But this is where you trust me. Because I have dealt with all three of these repetitively. Some days I would sit there and compare it to clockwork. It seemed like everything that could go wrong, would. Just like how the hands around a clock continually run in circles until the battery goes out, that’s how I viewed my life; just bad thing, bad thing, terrible thing, bad thing, and then boom, I’m dead.
I simply just accepted it and grew up thinking, “Hey… Something bad has gotta happen to someone. Maybe I’m just one of them”. But that was wrong. My acceptance of my fate was wrong. My idea that I could never, and would never, amount to anything was so wrong. I wish I could go back in time to when I was 11 years old, when my mom had just died, and punch myself in the face. But then I wouldn’t be writing this right now. And you wouldn’t be reading this. I feel so passionate about this that I am writing a second article on it.
Here’s how you can change your fate:
Stop accepting your stance in life. Stop accepting the “daily grind” or the lyrics out of that song where everyone’s like, “Everybody’s working for the weekend…”. Don’t live just for the weekends… Do not live just for two days out of the week. The weekend is not the most you can amount to, or your only reward for your hard work, because you can do more with your life.
Do you see what I’m saying? Imagine your life span on a timeline. 18 of those years you are spending growing up, roughly 6 of those you are spending on education and getting your foot on the ground, and then you work for what? 40-50 years just to retire? Then it’s only a matter of time before your health gets so low that you are stuck at home. Where in that were you not waiting for the next thing? When in your life can you stop waiting for the future and live in the present? Did the person who created the 9 to 5 life forget to throw that in there? Work work work… die die die.
Now I’m not saying quit your job and end up living out of a box because you can’t financially support yourself because you chose to only listen to one aspect of something I am trying to tell you.
What I am saying is learn to live. And live to learn new things. Don’t settle for doing the same damn thing every day until you hit the eternal snooze button. Because you truly can do whatever you want in life if you try… If you push to reach new heights and be persistent. Don’t be afraid to keep trying over and over again. If someone denies you, acknowledge that you could do better anyways, because only you know your true potential. You know what you can amount to. So do it.
If you are 14 years old, and the pressure of life that you are slowly starting to see is weighing too heavy, don’t give up. You can’t give up. In fact, your bully has given up, think about that. They have accepted that their life can only go so far, so they decide to put you down until you accept the same. Don’t listen to them. If they truly haven’t given up, then they would be striving to help you reach your goals as well, because we all can grow through each other.
I get it, everyone tells you that life will be okay, that you will get through it, but it doesn’t feel that way. And your own thoughts can be so powerful that they can speak to you louder than the words of anyone else. But I’ve been there. I’ve laid in bed at night crying because of the same shitty things that have happened in my life and all I was left to think was, “Why is this happening to me?”.
But there are other people out there that get it… I am out there; I understand. And I am telling you, from someone who has gone to counseling on and off since sixth grade, I have sworn that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. But, I can see the light now. It has taken a good 4-5 years and it is still so dim but I see it, and I pinky-promise you will see it too. Because if you can push past your thoughts, if you can learn to not be your own worst enemy, then you truly can do anything your little heart desires. ANYTHING.
Life is not set and stone, and don’t accept your fate if you don’t like it because the future is only conditional. It changes every single second. And when you are laying in bed, crying so hard you can’t breathe, remember that.
Go ahead, put the gun down, put the pill bottle down, life isn’t over until you say it is. You are the referee in your own life. YOU have the power to change YOUR life. Now get out of bed and do it. Because not even the sky is the limit when you learn to believe in yourself and lose the fear of failing.